Three months in to the job I currently hold, my fairly religious boss-man finally asked me a direct question regarding religion. With a bit more internal anguish than I expected, I answered honestly like I decided I always would a number of years ago. After telling him I was an atheist, and establishing that I did go to a Methodist Church growing up, his first and almost only question was "What happened to you at the church that turned you away?".
Sadly, I didn't manage to handle that question "in the moment". That's because my mind was racing to all the things I wanted to say, but also noticing that his response speaks volumes about how he interprets my being an atheist. He doesn't see it as my stance on the validity of religion. He see's it as my bias due to someone else's failing or my own lack of "faith".
But that's certainly how it felt considering he never really changed his question after my first response of "It's not a matter of what happened, it's just what I decided after I was old enough to really look at the validity of Christianity". However, I know I didn't say it so eloquently. That was because, like I said, I was feeling quite a bit more uncomfortable than I ever expected I would.
To attempt to answer his repeated question I went on a tiny, yet calm, rant, flailing in all sorts of different directions that probably made me seem like a bit of a loon and/or lost on the subject. But really it was quite the opposite. I so earnestly stared at the question of "God" for so many years that I just wanted to get all of it out. And since I was in the rare position of an honestly religious person actually asking me directly how I got to such a conclusion, I may have gone a little overboard and everywhere. Because...well, the nerves I guess...the work environment. Alright I'll stop making excuses now. It just wasn't pretty.
Here's the actual thoughts I was trying to convey while in my panic rant.
The 6 Paths to Atheism:
1. The Cliches
I hate that these thoughts are seen as cliche; "Where did we all come from?" and then the requisite follow up of "Well then, where did God come from?". You know why I hate it? Because those are very fair questions to ask. The first one being the question that drives many people into philosophical and religious thought.
But the answer you'll get from the religious is, "God always was". That's really just a veiled way out of the question. It doesn't address the intellectual core of the question.
You're assuming things that exist must have come from something; then you're told we came from god; so where did god come from? Instead of saying 'nowhere' the answer distracts with 'always was'. Using that logic you might as well assume we, as humans, or a planet, or just plain mass, always were. There's nothing more philosophically or scientifically profound about saying "God just is" than saying "we simply are". It's just an escape route.
To understand that the answer of God isn't an answer to the question of 'Where did we come from?' at all, makes it a lot easier to question his very existence.
2. The Rest of the World Really Does Exist - Part 1
I think this is where my doubt truly started. The first argument I remember bringing up time and again when I first found people to talk to honestly about the existence of god was 'If I had been born on the other side of the planet, I would simply be whatever religion their culture is.". Since there is no more material background for Christianity over Islam or, heck, even Mormonism, my thought was in all likelihood true. All of the big faiths have a book that is full of stories that morally instruct and people that believe it to be true. Nothing distinguishes one religion's claims as more valid than another on an evidence based level.
This was a big thing to me because I understood the rest of the world really does exist. I understood that there is entire populations of real fully formed people and cultures totally outside my realm. Many of them outnumber us as well!
So, on that note, a lot of religious people claim that you have to praise the right God to go to heaven. It's definitely a pretty big theme in the Bible. (Heck, the old testament instructs you to kill people of other faiths...but we'll get to the bible later). And considering the stakes of that claim. Considering these god-fearing objectives. These ultimate ultimatums. These damning destinies. Considering these were all balanced atop assertions so easily comparable and interchangeable with other cultures around the world, it makes them that much more open to scrutiny. And that much more concerning to understand how so many different cultures talk with such confidence about their personal religions and morals regardless of vague and conflicting origins.
So, to understand that entire cultures and countries of people hold opposing religious beliefs to yours is one thing. To realize that just being born in a certain region is the main precursor to a religious affiliation is another.
3. The Rest of the World Really Does Exist - Part 2
I've been told "There's nothing more narcissistic than believing there is no god". They get to that conclusion with something to the affect of "You think you're the biggest thing in the universe. You believe in nothing but yourself".
To this, I'd say there's nothing more narcissistic than saying "My Dad came to see me today. YAY! God is so great!".
Obviously that is simply an example from a vast array of examples; Thanking god for an award, pointing to the sky when you score a touchdown, stating you are 'blessed' and so on. All of these things suggest that God played a meticulous role in your normal, or mundane, or even acceptably exciting life, while allowing entire regions of the world to be subjected to war-lords, hunger, AIDS pandemics, oppression or just plain greed. And not just for moments, but for lifetimes, generations and successful genocides. This is the most narcissistic thing I can think of.
And accepting those truths makes it pretty hard to believe in a God that interferes with day-to-day life.
4. The Bible: Content
"God clearly expects us to keep slaves. That right there clearly demonstrates that we shouldn't get our morality from religion." - Sam Harris
Need I say more? I really feel like I don't, but I know how debates go below articles dealing with religion so I better lay it on thick. To put it slightly less simply, there is a long history of religious texts being used to oppress people. Without going on a rampage of quotes I can give you a quick synopsis. If you're a woman, the bible tells you to do what your man tells you to do and don't even think about talking at church (Ephesians 5:22-24 and all over Corinthians). These texts were used by countless "religious" folk to suppress women's rights using the Bible as the word of God. If we're talking about slavery, then you know that slaves should respect and serve their masters as if they were god on earth no matter how horribly they treat their slaves (Peter, Psalm, Ephesians, Colossians, Titus). But don't worry, god tells the slave owners to take it easy on them (Ephesians 6:9). These texts were used by the "religious" to argue for slavery in this country using the Bible as the word of God. The exact same could be said for interracial marriage, with the Bible literally invoking the concept of "mud races" numerous times (Acts, Genesis, Leviticus, Jeremiah, Deuteronomy). I mean, come on.
So, with that, the exact debate being had in the religious sector over homosexuality is almost identical to ones that were had over slavery, race relations, and women's rights just decades ago. Luckily, this will play out like all the others. Once the "religious" people, quoting their religious text, eventually lose, the mainstream accepts that those portions of the Bible were "a product of the times" and/or were "never meant to be taken literally".
But does that really make the foundation of religion any stronger? Or is that just the unceremonious and intellectually dishonest way to admit that your religion is wrong and instructed people immorally for hundreds of years?
Once you recognize that the Bible actually has a fair amount of immoral instruction, and people are just regurgitating answers to excuse it, can you really accept it as the word of God?
5. The Bible: Origins (Alternate title: The Rest of the World Really Did Exist)
Most of it is just plagiarism from paganism. From the birth of Christ being celebrated in December to the most iconic stories in the Bible, it was almost all stolen from previous cultures and beliefs of their time. Egyptian theology from 3000 BC has a character Horus (loosely considered a "Sun God"). He was born of a virgin, he had 12 disciples, was crucified and resurrected three days later. All of this sounds familiar I trust?
This is but one example from one previous religion. Countless pagan religions had tales along these exact lines. And stories of a "Great Flood". And stories of dark vs. light/good vs. evil. And if you get real technical, you can worry about how his December birthday doesn't line up with how the stars would be aligned at that time to guide the three wise men...it simply matches up with Pagan Winter Solstice.
So, once you recognize that the Bible has lifted much of it's religious lore can you really accept it as the word of God? And once you recognize the Bible is merely a compilation album, what does that say for religion as a whole?
6. Staring at it for a while...
This one can mean a lot of different things to a lot of different people. I'll use the concept of "heaven" as an example. To put it simply, existing forever in bliss sounds great but what does that even mean? If you assume that you are forever happy in heaven does that mean you even have thoughts? Is something magically making me never have a sad thought? If so, is that even me anymore? Is heaven just a drugged up version of yourself then? If not, what if someone I really enjoyed, went to hell? Would they not let me think about that? Because that would be an eternity of sadness for me. Not bliss. And if "heaven" just lied to me and gave me a carbon copy of that person, what the heck is that? That's not reasonable.
Fair to say I pulled this concept from Theoretical Bullshit/Scott Clifton - Mad Props
Yes, the basic concept of heaven sounds great and I really do wish something to that affect exists. But deciding to intellectually dissect the parts of religion that are meant to make you feel warm and fuzzy can make it anything but. It makes it seem hollow and meaningless. And once you recognize that many claims religions make are either hollow threats or hollow promises, what's left to believe in?
*Bonus 7: Evolution/Science
I didn't include this as an actual subset because I don't see this as something that has to be at odds with a God. That's simply the dynamic many religious people draw. And Richard Dawkins. But, of course, it conflicts with both (yup, there's two) of the origin stories of the Bible. As much as I've always loved Genetics, and enjoy Richard Dawkins' work in demonstrating how "not perfectly made" our organs and animal structures really are, I've just never really found this to be a way in to Atheism. I've experienced a tad, and seen plenty, to understand the kind of mental gymnastics people put themselves through to preserve "faith" and this never seemed direct enough for me to think it would change hearts and minds on its own. Definitely worth noting none the less.
Closing Arguments: Ironically I'm About to get Preachy
Personally, religion's most disgusting attribute is when it makes people feel shame and guilt for the wrong things. You haven't been going to church? You're a bad person. Think homosexuality is ok? You're a bad person. You have lustful thoughts? You're a bad person. When the mind is worried about these quaint or non-downfalls in their personal morality it makes it easier to lose sight of what's really important: Just being a nice person -- not hurting people. When we label things that are of no consequence as immoral it can not help people make sense of the world. It just confuses and creates internal anguish. And there's nothing much worse than teaching someone to hate themselves.
So, personally, once I realized all this guilt was completely unnecessary and just in place to help other people hold onto these beliefs, no matter how it affected those different than themselves, it all just seemed so...gross. So gross, in fact, that calling myself an atheist felt like a badge of honor I had created and given to myself. And I believe this is what atheists are referring to if you ever hear one of them say that losing their religion was "freeing".
With that, I hope this piece didn't only preach to the choir. Likewise, I hope this piece didn't only fall on def ears. If religion is your thing, I'm not trying to stop you and I'm not going to call you any names. I'm just pointing out that these are the holes in your foundation and it seems the only way religion ever plugs them is by increasing the portions of the Bible that were "a product of it's time" and/or "were never meant to be taken literal" while ever increasing the acceptance of secularist views with every passing year, generation and Pope.
And that's what I meant to say to my boss-man.
May peace be with you. And also with you, you and you.
is a thirty-something guy who hasn't been able to look away from politics since 2010. Around the time he got tired of staring at religion.